The Drive For Sex: New Relationships & First Dates

Why is there such a dramatic push for sex in the early stages of new relationships? This push is typically proprieted by the men but is often then perpetuated or at least accepted by the women involved. So what is the cause of this rushed need for rapid physical connection? Possible causes:

• Basic need for sex (are we that horny?)
• Basic need for intimacy (are we that lonely?)
• Corrupted morality (are we that naughty?)
• Accepted standards (when did this happen?)

Any of these are possible causes, though I don’t intend to tackle the morality issue right now. Although we might all be extra horny and lonely, I’m going to suggest that the biggest problem is today’s accepted standards. Girls who don’t put out at some assumed quickly adhering point are teases or prudes. If a guy doesn’t get laid then he’s a loser, failed with the girl or is just a pansy himself. Furthermore if a man doesn’t try to get sex then it shows he isn’t interested or isn’t attracted. If the girl doesn’t accept sexual attempts or initiate her own, the same applies. A fair amount of the time it is also assumed that if your significant other isn’t having sex with you then they must be having sex with someone else.

The unfortunate truth is that most of these conditions are far too often true. The standards then perpetuate themselves. A guy tries to get laid because he probably doesn’t know a better way to show his interest and he doesn’t want to appear to be a loser. The girl will then put out because she’ll be abandoned if she appears to be a prude. It so often seems that sex doesn’t occur because the two involved simply want to share that intimate moment, but for a potential multitude twisted alternate motivating factors.

Usually I will attempt to propose a solution at this point. Today I have none. The dating age’s (16-30+) is pretty made up at this junction. The people who attempt to break the cycle are outcast because the other side fails to comprehend the reason behind their actions and assumes the worst based on accepted standards of today. Maybe we’ll catch on universally or perhaps it will just take the next generation to see the folly of our ways and try something just a little different.

Less Bad News Today

I’ve noticed that so far today, on Yahoo’s News on their main page, there seems to be dramatically less bad news. A couple problems in third world countries and a little bit of the harmful effects of the current economic downturn, but all in all much less dark and dreary than it normally is. Tiger does well again (I guess that’s good or bad depending on preference), a man stops a bank robbery, microwaves won’t mutate your food (at least not likely) and Kara DioGuardi is coming back to Idol. Now, I don’t watch Idol nor had I ever heard of her prior to hearing about her being on the show, but she looks fairly cute from the little yahoo picture so it can’t be too bad of news. Maybe times are looking up. Or maybe today is a fluke.

AI VS Condron – Automatic Blogging Sites

I was actually about to start a blog on this myself and wanted to look into the automatic blogging sites a little more before doing so (I was mainly just familiar with condron, although I don’t use it often myself) and I discovered this useful blog containing the information I was going to write. As opposed to taking the time to write the blog and basically covering the same scope I decided to link his blog on the topic, additionally there are some handy comments worth reading there as well. The main focus is AlphaInventions compared to Condron which are automatic blogging sites. For those who don’t know what automatic blogging sites are, essentially you submit your blog to a site that rotates your blog profile on an automatic blog roll that people can watch as it ‘flips’ through submitted blogs. This process can potentially generate a bunch of extra traffic and readers to your blog. Follow the link below to the article. It’s a must read for bloggers who are wanting to drum up more traffic.

http://brucemhood.wordpress.com/2009/02/27/alphainventions-versus-condron/

A Galaxy Far Far Away

This is a distant galaxy called NGC 1097. The center is a gigantic black hole 100 million times the size of our sun. It is shaped roughly like our own galaxy the Milky Way. I just thought the picture was worth sharing here.

It’s About Time! – Organic Foods

A new study declares that there are no significant nutritional benefit to eating organic foods vs traditionally produced food.

The organic food market is in the billions due to a falsely perceived idea that organic food is somehow better for us than normal food. A group based in London reviewed 162 scientific papers on the subject published over the last 50 years and according to one of the authors of the summarizing report their “review indicates that there is currently no evidence to support the selection of organically over conventionally produced foods on the basis of nutritional superiority.” (Original Story Here)

I’ve just gotta say, it’s about time. I’ve been waiting for this one to come down the pipe and turn out to be rubbish just like most health fads or trends that sweeps the nation or world. At least it doesn’t seem to be any worse for your health. Unlike the Atkins diet fad which has died down a bit since information shows a likely (though yet not completely verified) link between the diet and heart disease.

We’re All Going to Die (A Swine Flu Massacre)

The swine flu is going to kill 40% of all Americans.

Alright. perhaps that is still a slight exaggeration, but according to a news article I just read, they (whoever they are) estimate that 40% of Americans will contract the H1N1 Flu over the next two years, and that 2 billion people or more are likely to contract it worldwide during the same time period. Their less dramatic estimates of American loss of life is between 90,000 and several hundred thousand.

So far, since its discover in April the swine flu has already claimed 302 American lives according to a CDC estimate. While this may seem significant, the normal season flu kills approximately 30,000 Americans per year, which is an average of 2500 per month or 7500 people in the same time period that swine flu has killed 302. Naturally the bulk of deaths to season flu come in flu season, but even if only 10% of flu related deaths occur outside of the typical time of year, that would still be 750 and 2.5 times the amount the swine flu has done so far.

Even though the H1N1 has been declared a pandemic (which just means there have been reported cases in several countries and truly does not make a declaration to the severity of the disease) I don’t feel that so far, this deserves the attention, media coverage, and fear response that it has gotten so far. The whole issue has been described as “fear-mongering” and at this point I would have to agree. Now I’m not suggesting that a person should ignore serious symptoms of the illness (which, by the way are the exact same symptoms as seasonal flu), but don’t run crying swine flu every time you get a fever or a cough.

News Article Here

CDC Reference Link Here

If You Traveled the World

This is a continuation of my ongoing dialogue about people getting out of their typical environment. Here is a selection of views you are missing now, and that you might get to see if you traveled the world.

Jokulsarlon, Iceland

Perito Moreno Glacier, Argentina

Olgas, Australia

Flaming Cliffs, Gobi Desert, Mongolia

Avenue of the Baobobs, Madagascar

Tsingy de Bemaraha, Madagascar

Chocolate Hills, Philippines

Bungle Bungles, Australia

Bryce Canyon, U.S.

Now I know the majority of people (myself included) do not have the funds to fly off to whirlwind adventures in exotic and faraway places, but maybe there’s a gorgeous little area right next to you. The following two pictures are from my small hometown in Northern California.

The Sundial Bridge, California

Sacramento River, California

Get out and find something pretty to look at.

More information on the places above can be found HERE

Global Warming is…Pretty?

The picture above is of “mysterious, glowing clouds previously seen almost exclusively in Earth’s polar regions” that ”have appeared in the skies over the United States and Europe over the past several days.” According to a wired.com news article (original story here). These “night shining” clouds are formed of ice literally at the border of our atmosphere and space. They continue catching light later into the night because the are simply so high up that the sunlight from past our horizon can continue to reach them. They also, in theory, could be a result of ongoing global warming. Not that I would make light the issue of global warming (ok, ok, I would), but at the very least the worlds condition has made available these clouds for those fortunate enough to witness this rare and stunning phenomenon.

How To Marry Yourself?

The answer: Find a person with the exact same name as you on facebook, have a fabulous romance, and get married. That’s what Kelly Hildebrandt and Kelly Hildebrandt have done (though surely not with that intention originally). The two Kelly’s met on facebook while the female of the couple was searching people with her own name and discovered her “cute” male counterpart. “I searched my own name and he’s the only one who came up and actually in the picture he didn’t have a shirt on and I was like oh he’s cute,” shes said. Three weeks after they met on facebook male Kelly flew to meet her in Florida and now the wedding is slated for October.

Original Story Here

Creepy? I cannot imagine dating someone with my own name, although I don’t have a gender ambiguous name as such, but the principle remains. Consider when male Kelly told his friends and family,  “So, I’m completely in love with Kelly,” and the mockery that must have ensued. Also in that they have the same last name already, people less in the know might wonder if they were already related and certainly people who knew the circumstances would surely give them a hard time about it. I suppose love hits us in strange times and ways and they should follow it when it comes to them, though it will, at the very least, be a interesting arrangement. Already they have to open every piece of mail that comes in together they ”don’t know whose mail is whose.”

Harry Potter and the Mediocre Sequel

*Warning – may contain spoilers (not that you didn’t already read the book)*

“Snogging” may have been the most often spoken word in the flick. Firstly, I must note, I have not read the books and I really only liked movie 4&5. Overall the movie was a little bit empty. It focused almost entirely on the budding tragic relationships of the 3 main characters and not on the main plot elements of the book (so I’m told), which seems like would have made the movie much more interesting. In the end it becomes hard to describe mediocrity because of the lack of significant or standout qualities. It wasn’t a bad movie. The acting wasn’t bad. The storyline wasn’t awful. But all in all it was just decent. Decent special effects, okay story, and a lack of much of anything impressive. Unfortunately for me, I went with family and saw the midnight showing (yes I realize that makes this a late blog response) and therefore spent a total of 5 hours to watch a movie that yielded me little satisfaction and even less sleep before work the following day. I think only 3 people in my theatre clapped at the end of the film, as opposed to the awful standing ovations that I’ve witnessed for nearly every midnight showing movie I’ve viewed. To return to my initial snogging reference, snogging is a British term for making out, and is possible that it occurred more than spells and sorcery. Hardcore Potter fans should definitely still watch the movie, though keep your expectations to a minimum especially in regards to keeping with the details from the novel. Everyone else, wait til it comes out on video unless someone else is paying.